So today a topic came up that hit me pretty hard as multiple things going on in my life related directly to it.
The topic was on communication and how through it you can help someone around you. When discussing it someone asked me,
“Who have you helped today?”
I thought that was something real good to think about and one that I should ask myself multiple times throughout my days.
This blog mostly has opened my eyes to the power of communication and by putting myself out there every week, exposing my faults and struggles. I have learned not only so much more about myself but about so many more people, of whom most I don’t know, but are going through similar struggles, or even different struggles that I still connect with on a different level.
I am also reading a book right now called “Option B,” and in the book the author shares her struggle with losing her husband and I was just amazed by how closely I related to much of her struggles.
Not only when I lost my dad, but also with my fight with addiction and my incarceration. I am sure many of you reading this post have seen someone else struggling. And you’ve wanted to help them out but you didn’t know how, so instead of offering a hand, you just avoided the situation or didn’t say anything.
I am sure many of my family members can related back to the times when I was on a crash course, I pushed them away, and they stayed away. I’m sure some of you now can relate to this.
I’ve been there, it’s easier sometimes to not deal with a difficult situation, especially when it’s not right in front of you. And it doesn’t have to be similar to my situation either, it can be someone that lost their job, their pet, girlfriend, or any loved one.
Also, keep in mind just because you haven’t went through the struggle they are dealing with, you can still help, but you won’t know that until you offer to just simply be there for them.
It’s easy for me to offer a hand to someone who has recently lost their parent, because I have gone through it. But change that to someone who has lost a child and I don’t even know where to start. I have however watched the pain it’s caused by watching my Grandma and Grandpa lose two children. But I don’t want to say something stupid, like “it’s going to be okay,” because it’s probably not going to be okay, at least not for awhile.
I could however just let them know I am there for them if they need someone to talk to. The more I share on my sister’s blog the more I hear about people relating to my words, because they have something in their life that is relatable, and maybe they don’t but will in the future and then my content will also become relevant to them at some point.
My favorite thing to hear from my sister is when she tells me that my story came up at a very unexpected time and she tells me that someone exposes something very personal to her that she would never have guessed, all because she was brave enough to post my posts on her and Jamie’s website. Jamie and Morgan not caring what the consequences are, not worried about if it’s going to cost her a job down the road, because someone doesn’t want to support someone who supports broken people. Because they know that through these posts it will touch or help so many more people than it will harm.
As long as each one of my posts helps one single person, I will continue to share. I will share my struggles, but I will also share my achievements. I promise you that, because I know we’ll all make a difference together.
As I finish my last year in prison, and transition to a world much different than the one I left behind I look forward to continuing to do what I can to make a difference in the world.
But I will also do what I can today, to make a difference in the peoples lives I am surrounded by now. Whether it’s a guy on the compound who is looking down, and I offer support, or it’s a reader who has a question because they are going through something and they think I can lend some insight.
I encourage anyone reading this as well, lend a hand to anyone, pay it forward, smile at a stranger, and if you are the one struggling and someone offers help, take it. And remember to ask yourself, who have you helped today?
Thanks for listening!